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How YOU(th) can be a STAR!

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When you look up at the night sky these days, in your own city, what do you see?

For me, all I see are a bunch of gloomy clouds. MashaAllah it’s a beautiful picture, but tell me, do you see any STARs?

It seems that nowadays, all of our STARs have left us. They’re somewhere hidden and overshadowed by the flashing lights of this dunya. However, think back to the Prophet (SAW)’s time. He was in a desert, with no electric lights that were blinding. No need for them at all. All that was left after the Prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) were the STARs.

STARs that shone so bright and lasted for so many years. They’d guide ships to discover new lands, and later on even had a study just for them (not necessarily astronomy).

The Sahabahs of that day were ordinary youths that gathered together and decided that they’d accept this message that the Prophet (SAW) brought: Islam. And although they were young, and weren’t very high people in society, they went on the front lines for Islam (even literally, check here about the Battle of Badr). They were the best generation.

Why were they the best, and how can you, as an average Muslim youth become like them?

Well, there were four areas that they all excelled in, and that’s what made them STARs. If you work on these areas, then you, too, will be able to work toward being like the best generation. STAR is an acronym, and represents four areas of your life that you can work on, they are:

Spirituality

Your relationship with Allah (SWT). This is otherwise known as your ‘Ibadah, or your worship. This area dares to ask the question, “Why are you a Muslim?” It taps into and builds the foundation of your identity. Simple things you can do to improve this are:

  • Try to pray all 5 of your daily Salah
  • Pray your Sunnah prayers as they guard your Fard prayers (if you’re lazy one day, you might neglect Sunnah rather than Fard)
  • Seek to learn the meaning of what you say in Salah

Try to learn about these areas of Islam:

  • Iman (and the six articles of it)
  • Aqeedah (the foundation of Islamic beliefs)
  • Shari’ah (the laws of the Qur’an interpreted by the ‘Ulama)

Training

This is also known as Tarbiyyah. It’s personal development. Basically, gaining knowledge and skills to apply that knowledge. With this, you begin to change and turn into a person that Allah is pleased with. Simple things you can do to improve this are:

  • Practice everyday Adab (manners & etiquettes) like using your right hand to eat, sleeping on the right side, etc.
  • Watching your speech, and trying to refrain from cursing or hurting others’ feelings.
  • Try to guard your eyes, ears, and limbs from seeing, hearing, or doing what is disliked and forbidden by Allah

Try to learn about these areas of Islam:

  • Tarbiyyah (Islamic Training and character development)
  • Adab (manners & ettiquettes)
  • Small Sunnan (plural of Sunnah) that the Prophet did, such as entering a room with the right foot, “Alhamdulillah” after you sneeze, etc.

Activism

This is your relationship with the community. How are you benefiting everyone around you? This can encompass community service, and things that you do just for the sake of Allah. Simple things you can do to improve this are:

  • Look into and attend service projects already established (Project Downtown is a great one)
  • Take advantage of any clubs or groups (Muslim or non-Muslim) that benefit humanity.
  • Fulfill and surpass your 40-service-hour high school requirement (for U.S. students)

Try to learn about these areas of Islam:

  • Seerah, specifically stories of how the Prophet dealt with non-Muslims

Relationships

You have countless relationships that you must nurture, and cherish. There’s the relationship with your parents, siblings, friends, fellow Muslims, non-Muslims, neighbors, and even more. When you master how you act toward all these people, you’ve truly accomplished something great. Simple things you can do to improve this are:

  • Call up at least one friend a week, just to talk
  • Commit to one good deed a day, whether it be for your parents, your friend, or other family
  • Try to communicate and understand when dealing with others.
  • Hold your tongue and try your hardest to stay away from anger. At all costs.
  • Don’t jump to conclusions, or judge anyone.

Try to learn about these areas of Islam:

  • Seerah, the Prophet as a father, a neighbor, a Muslim brother, and every other role.

InshaAllah, if we realize that self-improvement and purification is encompassed in these four areas of your life, and we strive to improve them, the night sky will soon be brighter.

إِنَّا زَيَّنَّا السَّمَآءَ الدُّنْيَا بِزِينَةٍ الْكَوَكِبِ

“Verily! We have adorned the near heaven with the stars (for beauty).”

Surah Saffat 37:6

It’s time for us all to improve ourselves, and light up the night sky once again.

Jawaad Khan was born and raised in sunny South Florida to a family of creatives and Islamic workers. He went on to complete a film degree at the University of Miami, one year of improv classes (which he’s very proud of), and he studied Arabic and Islamic studies at various institutes in Dallas, TX, where he now resides with his wife and cat. He serves on the board and is an editor for Muslim Youth Musings. His first collection of short stories is set to be published in 2023.

7 Comments

  1. very good article, masha’Allah! Absolutely amazing! It’s very helpful for those who need tips on how to imporve themselves everyday, one step at a time.

  2. @anonymous Jazakallahu Khair. Glad you feel that way.
    @Arif yeah, practicality is key in actualy improving yourself.

    If anyone wants to know, this mainly came from something called the STAR Program, which is the youth initiative launched by my youth group, FAYM (Florida Association of Young Muslims). Basically, we host weekly youth sessions in which there’s an Islamic education aspect, and a training aspect, all geared toward producing STAR youth (strong in all four areas).

  3. @anonymous Jazakallahu Khair. Glad you feel that way.
    @Arif yeah, practicality is key in actualy improving yourself.

    If anyone wants to know, this mainly came from something called the STAR Program, which is the youth initiative launched by my youth group, FAYM (Florida Association of Young Muslims). Basically, we host weekly youth sessions in which there’s an Islamic education aspect, and a training aspect, all geared toward producing STAR youth (strong in all four areas).

  4. SumaiyahKhan Reply

    i loved it!! it makes you(th) realize that its not hard to become a star…you made it seem easy and very doable.

  5. Short_sister Reply

    I love how you broke it down steps, great idea Masha’Allah!

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